Why We Homeschool

Why We Homeschool

You’re homeschooling? How lovely. WHY would you want to do that?

Going against the mainstream opens the door to big questions about big life choices to random strangers at the post office.

You’re so brave. I could never do that. Is that even legal? Home all day with your kids? Do you think your kids are too smart for school? Do you think you’re a better teacher than real teachers? Do you not trust schools? Do you hate teachers? Are you teaching everything? What makes you qualified to do that? How will you know your kids are learning? Are you going to do this forever? Are you completely insane?

A family trying to do what works.

We don’t fit the stereotypes. You know what they are. We are your completely average, right down the middle class, suburban family.  There was no big event that pushed us to choose homeschool over public school. We aren’t anti-anything or pro-anything in particular. We are just a family trying to do what works.

For us, homeschooling is a lifestyle choice. A big, life changing decision. We put a lot of thought into it, talked it through, and decided that this is the direction we want our lives to take. The pros seriously outweigh the cons.  There are sacrifices, but they’ll be well worth it.

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The decision was fairly easy to make after a little research and a lot of getting-over-myself. I’ve found the most difficult part has been explaining – sometimes downright defending our decision to homeschool.


I understand the curiosity. Before I started this journey I knew exactly one homeschooler. The majority of people I talk to know zero. None. It’s  new. It’s strange. Outside the norm. Something you hear about on TV – and not in a good way. Only around 3% of all school aged children are educated at home.

I may be the first weirdo homeschooler you’ve ever met, but I won’t be the last. Alternative schooling is on the rise, whether it’s traditional homeschool, virtual school, a hybrid, or something in-between.

The Hierarchy of Curiosity

Not all curiosity is created equal. Not everyone is owed an explanation. Looking at you old lady in line behind me at Pack and Ship. Did she just? Did she say? Oh no she didn’t.

Family and friends who range from passive to confrontational, but whatever their reaction I know they care and only question us out of genuine concern. These are the questions I don’t mind. Everything is gonna be okay. I promise, I won’t screw up the kids any more than I was going to five minutes ago. I’m just doing it a different way.

Acquaintances who feel like they knew you before you completely blew their mind. Oh-my-god-you’re-homeschooling-I-can’t-believe-it-you-of-all-people-why-would-you-ever-do-that?!? Then quickly, How nice for you.  

Look Acquaintances, you didn’t know me as well as you thought you did.  I didn’t mean to startle you with my odd behavior, so I’ll answer this way: It’s what works for us. It’s what we really want to do.

post-45769-cheers-to-my-haters-meme-Imgur-gdeG.pngHomeschool Haters. You’ll get those.The eyebrow raise that says, I’m surprised you’re not in denim bib overalls, wearing a bonnet, riding a goat.  

How to identify a Homeschool Hater:  They don’t call you by name. Your new name is “The One Who Homeschools.” They say things like, “Sometimes I’d like to keep my kids sheltered, too.” Or they hint around that it’s nice that you can “afford” to do something like this. Clearly this says more about their frame of mind than it does about my lifestyle.

Embrace the haters. Let them spur you on. To them I say, Oh yes, we homeschool. We homeschool so hard it’ll make your head spin. 

Random Strangers. They’re going to ask a lot of personal questions and see a lot of resting bitch face.  I’m just here to buy some stamps. Stop questioning me and my kid and mind ya business. 


Not everyone is so combative, but meeting people outside of education and homeschool that are both knowledgeable and accepting is infrequent at best. I’ve only been at this for a short time, and I’ve already had some thrilling experiences with the public.

I’m sure the questions will continue, at least for the foreseeable future. I have to go to the bank tomorrow, groceries on Tuesday. 

Thank you for reading. Why did you decide to homeschool? Feel free to comment below! follow our homeschool adventures to the bank and beyond on Facebook and Instagram and be sure to check out our resource library.

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12 thoughts on “Why We Homeschool

  1. Jamie says:

    As an educator and a parent, you rock!! I know you are going to rock homeschooling! W is sooo lucky to have you as his teacher and his mom! Honestly!! 😉

  2. Adriana Garcia Molina says:

    I’m a teacher and I want to teach my kids at home. Do you have any links or sites that you visited before taking the decision and also I would like to know did you decide the school curriculum… Thanks!
    And I hope the best for you and kids.

    • Some Random Lady says:

      Hey Adriana 🙂 I found several local and state groups on Facebook that helped answer all of my questions. I also found a lot of great advice searching and participating in online forums. A few to investigate are secularhomeschool.com, weltrainedmind.com, and homeschool.com. Many homeschoolers feel pretty isolated – especially in areas where homeschooling is less popular in rural areas where there may not be many homeschoolers close by. The online community is hopping! I actually have a post about deciding curriculum and setting homeschool goals: https://somerandomlady.com/2016/08/24/choosing-curriculum/ Hope that helps!

  3. Erica says:

    Great reads! I originally found you via “What not to say to a Homeschool Mom”. Would you mind if I posted a link on my new homeschool blog? You said all the things I wanted to! 😉

  4. Emily says:

    I’ve actually lost a friend who refused to look at anything that didn’t support her opinion of homeschooling being horrible for kids. She is under the impression kids learn best together. I am under the impression that there is a time and place for group study and exploration and kids distract each other more often than not from learning. I’m Really Excited to homeschool. I love the goals: mastery of subjects, fostering self confidence and intellectual independence! More importantly, keep learning Fun and Interesting for him. I want him to know how he learns best and how to utilize that into his life so he can pick up what he wants as he ages. Accessible knowledge is a wonderful thing!

    • Some Random Lady says:

      That’s wonderful, Emily! I’m sorry you lost a friend. I lost one, too, when we began. She was horrified that I was trying to shelter my son so much… I was happy when I finally let that negativity go. I’m glad, too, because homeschooling is awesome!

  5. Bek says:

    I am so disappointed when I read posts like this and learn that so many people have to deal with so much of that garbage from others! I know it’s out there but I have been super blessed. I don’t know if it’s because I have the kind of personality that scares people away to begin with so they wouldn’t dare say anything horrible 😉 or if it is because I live in an area that is very supportive of homeschooling and very saturated with homeschooling families but I have not had to deal with much negativity. It’s kind of too bad because I have had my answers and comebacks ready for years! I kind of wish someone would say something so I could drop some knowledge on them! Haha!

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